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Meet Angelique Millis

Before I introduce you to my Desktop Star of the Week, I wanted to share my progress! Last Thursday, I had the opportunity to go to Jillian Michael’s Maximize Your Life tour and boy, is she amazing! She’s been my favorite trainer since the first time I saw her on Biggest Loser, but as I’ve gotten to know her (through her books & tv shows, lol), I’ve learned that she’s so much more than an awesome trainer! She not only inspired me to become a trainer 2 years ago, but also her book Unlimited and her work with Danni has helped me tremendously in my journey to supreme health! I’ve learned that I have to address the mental issues before I can achieve my goals. It has been tough, but after seeing her in person,everything I read has been solidified and this week so far has been awesome! As I write, I’m actually at Ruby Tuesday enjoying a night out with myself as a reward for my hardwork thus far:-) But enough about me! Now for the moment you’ve all been waiting for!

Introducing Angelique Millis…


Angelique Millis is my Desktop Star of the week because her story is similar to mine. She gained weight her freshmen year–40 pounds to be exact–and decided to do something about it! It’s uplifting to see someone where you were get to where you want to me. She is presently a bikini competitor, author, fitness profresssional and life coach. She’s written an ebook, The Fit Success Lifestyle Program, several articles, and has even created her own workout entitled, Fit in 30. I chose her this week in particular because at the end of this week, if I stay consistent with my diet and training, I will earn her ebook! I’m looking forward to it, because I KNOW that I can do it.

Until next week…

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Rock My Soul: An Article on Facing the Pain

“Although we may have had a long period of silence, maybe even denial, when we have been unable to speak openly and honestly about the crisis in how we see ourselves and others and how we are seen, we black folks know that our collective wounded self-esteem has not been healed. We know that we are in pain. And it is only through facing the pain that we will be able to make it go away.”


The quote written above is an excerpt from Rock My Soul, a book by Bell Hooks. It talks about elevating the self esteem of a hurting people—black people. It’s obvious that African Americans were not widely accepted after slavery ended. We were seen as inferior to white people. And what a powerful and negative word that is. Inferior means “of or characteristics of low rank or importance; of low quality.” Could you imagine being treated like an animal? Being looked down upon everyday. White people telling you that you’re not worthy. That they are better than you. No wonder we are in such pain.

Unfortunately, though, instead of addressing this pain, we carry it around with us everyday.


Have you ever eaten a whole day’s worth of calories in one sitting without even realizing it? You mindlessly eat and you’re not sure why and you don’t know how to stop? Guilty. Did you know that this binging goes much deeper than food?  “Not wanting to look at something painful is at the very foundation of compulsive eating” (LeBlanc). The other day I was thinking to myself that it’s easier to eat…or not eat, than to think. And it’s so true. It’s so much easier to pick up a bag of cookies when you’re depressed than to address the problem at hand. So, let’s challenge ourselves to run towards the problem instead of away from it. Now, don’t freak out on me yet. We’re going to take baby steps to healing this psychological and emotional pain you are experiencing:


  1. Forgive. Before doing anything, forgive whomever is hurting you. Whether you need to forgive a family member, a significant other, a friend, or yourself. Forgive. Address the problem and let it go.
  2. Become more aware. By this, I mean to thoughtfully examine your thoughts prior to, during, and after you eat. Ask yourself a few questions, such as, “Are you hungry? How are you feeling right now?” On days when I would stare into the pantry looking for something to eat, I would ask myself, “What are you searching for?” Are you really hungry or are you searching to fulfill a void within your life? Be a conscious eater. Eat on purpose.
  3. Slow down while you eat. If you’re going to eat, enjoy it! Don’t rush through your meal, leaving you feeling unsatisfied and maybe even falsely hungry. Take time to chew and enjoy your food. It will prevent overeating and promote enjoyment of your food.
  4. Get uncomfortable. I don’t know about you, but this is probably the most difficult step for me. But, it’s so rewarding once you take that leap of faith. Talk to people about the problems you are having with them. Address them and be honest. Don’t hold it in anymore. And once you open it, the burdens on your back will slowly melt away and the desire to eat compulsively will leave with it. It’s such an amazing feeling to know that you are healing.

These are just a few tips for how to overcome overeating, though there is so much more to be learned and to be done. This is only a start, and I know it’s going to be hard. If you are struggling with compulsive eating and need support, feel free to message me, Tif Tiff Tiffany for encouragement and advice. Also, be sure to check out this book: You Can’t Quit til You Know What’s Eating You by Donna LeBlanc. Now, to end with a quote:

“Edibles, no matter how many or how scrumptious, succulent, sweet, and sublime, can tranquilize us only temporarily. However, it is possible to discover the real cause of our appetite and then put together our own foodless recipe for lasting gratification.”


Don’t give up. There’s hope for a day with no binges:-)

Tiffany Love

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119 Things To Do INSTEAD of Eating

Are you really hungry? Or are you just bored, angry, frustrated, or sad? Here are 119 things you can do, when the thought of food is consuming you, and you KNOW you’re not hungry. *Courtesy of*

119 Things You Can Do Instead of Eat When You Are Upset

(or bored, or sad, or stressed…)

This is a compilation from the Emotional Eaters Group. Feel free to steal these ideas to help you with your fitness goals!
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1. Aromatherapy: sprays, essential oils, cut open an orange, whatever will stimulate your sense of smell.
2. Ask yourself, What would I like instead?
3. Beat on a pillow till your arms are tired and you’re laughing from the silliness of it.
4. Blog on Spark People.
5. Brush your teeth.
6. Call someone you can trust: lean on their shoulder.
7. Cancel life: take a retreat to re–evaluate if this is how you want your life to be. You can retreat at home or go to a convent, Buddhist temple, resort…whatever your wallet can handle.
8. Check out the Daily Spark.
9. Chew gum.
10. Clean house, a room, the fridge. Mop, dust, vacuum.
11. Clean out your recipe file and books.
12. Clean the car…inside and out.
13. Clean your cupboards of junk food.
14. Clean your spice drawer or cabinet of expired spices.
15. Clean and organize your office.
16. Compose music.
17. Computer games (like the ones on Spark).
18. Crafts.
19. Crochet, knit, needlepoint, cross stitch, quilt.
20. Cry. Let your emotions out so you don’t try to stuff them down with food.
21. Dance! In a dance hall or your living room!
22. Daydream.
23. Deep breathing. Focus on things you appreciate.
24. Do something for somebody else. Volunteer.
25. Don’t talk when someone upsets you, unless necessary. Then pray silently for wisdom.
26. Drink water.
27. Enjoy a cup of tea or decaf coffee.
28. Exercise until you’re exhausted.
29. Express your needs. Your needs are just as important as anyone else’s.
30. Feed your fish and enjoy the entertainment.
31. Find reasons to laugh (jokes, funny movies, stories).
32. Focus on the positive. For every one thing that goes wrong, there are probably 10 or 50 or 100 blessings. Count them.
33. Garden.
34. Get a massage.
35. Get as many Spark Points for the day as you can…max it out.
36. Give & receive a scalp massage with a friend.
37. Give Spark Goodies.
38. Give yourself a facial with hot towels.
39. Give yourself a foot bath, scrub, & massage.
40. Give yourself a manicure. Or get a professional one.
41. Give yourself a pedicure. Or get a professional one.
42. Go for a drive.
43. Go to another room in your home.
44. Hike in nature.
45. Hot shower with scented soap and lotion afterward.
46. Hot tub.
47. Journal writing.
48. Leave welcome messages on new Sparkers pages.
49. Light incense or scented candles.
50. Listen to nature music…or the real thing if you’re near it.
52. Listen to relaxing music.
53. Look at garden magazines.
54. Look at others’ Spark Pages and send goodies.
55. Look at photos. Make a photo album.
56. Look up Spark People Motivators.
57. Love yourself.
58. Make a grateful list (good things you have and good things you’ve done).
59. Make choices about what you have time and energy to do. Take care of the most important things first and say NO to the unimportant. Use a priority list as a guide and practice saying, NO.
60. Meditate.
61. Meet new people on the computer.
62. Organize a closet. Take what you don’t need to a thrift store.
63. Organize your junk drawer.
64. Paint.
65. Pay bills.
66. Pet your cat, dog, hamster, snake, etc.
67. Plan an outing.
68. Play a board game.
69. Play a musical instrument. Or take a lesson!
70. Play cards.
71. Play solitaire.
72. Play suduko, crossword puzzle, etc.
73. Play with silly putty or play dough and squish the heck out of it!
74. Play with your kids or grandkids. Read to them.
75. Post on Spark People.
76. Post your calories on Spark People.
77. Pray.
78. Put on lipstick.
79. Read a book. The kind you can’t put down.
80. Read a scripture.
81. Rearrange the furniture.
82. Reconnect with your faith.
83. Reconnect with your friends.
84. Rejoice in what you have.
85. Research something interesting on the computer.
86. Ride a bike.
87. Send a card.
88. Sew.
89. Shop.
90. Sing your heart out! (even if you don’t know the words).
91. Skim leaves from your koi pond, pool, etc.
92. Slow down.
93. Snuggle with your partner, child, grandchild, or pet.
94. Spend time forgiving yourself. Be kind and gentle with yourself, as you would a child. Know that you always do the best you can in any situation with the resources you have available at that time.
95. Stretch your muscles.
96. Study. Do homework.
97. Swim.
98. Take a hot bubble bath.
99. Take a nap.
100. Take out the trash and throw it in the dumpster…hard!
101. Talk with a friend.
102. Think of someone in your life who loves, respects, and appreciates you. See yourself through their eyes.
103. Think of why you want to eat, and remind yourself that eating will only make things worse.
104. Update your resume (don’t wait until you NEED it!).
105. Update your Spark page.
106. Visit a pet shelter or pet store.
107. Visit your neighbor.
108. Walk around the mall, in the park, around the block.
109. Walk the dog.
110. Wash your hair.
111. Watch America’s Funniest Home Videos.
112. Watch a funny movie, a tear jerker (or a drama, or a musical…).
113. Watch the rain or snowfall.
114. Watch the trees grow and flowers bloom.
115. WiiFit.
116. Work on your taxes (pull things together–there’s always more to do than you think at the end of the year).
117. Write a fictional short story about what you’d do to resolve the situation and make yourself feel better.
118. Write a friend (try hand writing it, like the old days!).
119. Yoga.


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